Habits tab build hoti hain jab wo boring na lagay, balkay aapko khushi, mazza, reward, or rush mily.
-according to James Clear:
“Behavior change ke secret – habits ko itna attractive bana do ke dimaag ‘haan’ bolne par majboor ho jaye.”
✔ 1) Dopamine Loop – Dimaag ki game
Jab bande ke paseene dekhna lagta hai
Jab banda mobile scrolling start karta hai…
Jab banda chips khata hai…
To, Bhaavanaa ke lie Dhoomaapeetaa deta hai → is liye, yeh Aadaat hai
Ek good habit ke liye bhi dopamine loop should hone chahiye.
2) Temptation Bundling – Boring + Fun combine kar o
Aap boring cheez ko mazedaar ke saath jor do.
Example:
Walk + Music
Study + Favorite Soft Beverage
Reading + Favorite Chips (thoda sa)
Exercise + Podcast Preference
Homework + Snacks
Result:
Boring kaam = Interesting experience → habit develops.
Real Story (Amazing Example)
Ek college student ko treadmill boring lagta tha.
Voh treadmill per chalta hi nahi tha.
Phir usne ek rule banaya:
“Main sirf apna favorite Netflix show tab dekhunga jab main treadmill par hounga.”
Guess what?
wo roz treadmill per jane lga.
Isko temptation bundling kehte hain.
3) Habit Ko Attractive Banane Ka Formula
(1) Before Habit → Chhota sa reward
Example:
Reading start se pehle thodi chocolate.
Start with studying, se pehle apna favorite music 2 minutes.
(2) Habit ke andar dopamine moments add karo
Example:
Beautiful notebook khareed lo
Stylish pen
Acha desk setup
Pomodoro timer ke attractive sound
(3) Social Motivation add karo
Habits ko attractive banane ka best formula:
“Woh log choose karo jinke standards high hon.”
Agar aap 3 Smart logon ke beech bethte ho →
Dimaag un-manusos un jaisa banna cha
Kai baat hai isi liye school + teachers + parents + friends ke role habit-building me bohot strong hai.
⭐ Chapter 9: ‘The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping Your Habits’
Yeh chapter simple ek baat seekhata hai:
“Aap unhi logon ki tarah ban jaate hain jinke beech aap rehte ho.”
Man ke dimaag ek group follow karta hai.
✔ 1) 3 Types of Groups
A. Close Relatives – Family Members and Friends
Unki habits → aapki habits.
B. Social Groups – Classmates, School, and Colleagues
Unka environment → aapki soch.
(C) High Status Groups – Jinke aap fan ho
E.g. Elon Musk, Teachers, Army Officers, Smart Students
Aap unko follow karte ho →
Unki habits adopt karne lagte ho.
⭐ 2) Real Life Example (Amazing Story)
Ek school me do groups thay:
Group 1: Lazy Group :
Homework late
Games zyada
Study kam
Mobile scrolling
It
No discipline
Group 2: Smart Group
Roz do keshe homework
Sleeping properly
30 minutes reading
No unnecessary scrolling
Ek student Ahmed Group 1 me se tha, bohot weak.
Ek din uska seat change hogaya → Group 2 ke beech aa gaya.
3 months baad:
Ahmed tops 5 me agya
Reading habit develop hogayi
Screen time half
Confidence develop
Kyun
Kyuki environment change hogaya.
Habit system will automatically improve hogaya.
✔ 3) School Environment = Habit Factory
Agar school ka atmosphere:
Clean
Motivating
Reading culture
Discipline
Teacher’s behavior- Positive
Achievements Display Hoti Ho
To student ke habits boom ho jaati hain.
Agar Isi ke parchaar ke liye ek alag school bhi hai, toh uski link
⭐ 4) Social Proof Habit Ko Powerful Bana Deta Hai
Jab bachay dekhte hain:
Dusre students reading kar rahe hain
Classroom silent and focused hai
- Homework time par ho raha hai
- Teachers bhi books padh ra
To wo automatically inspired hote hain.
Habits copy hoti ha
⭐ 5) Parents + Teachers = Dual Habit Builders
Parents’ Role
Discipline
Screen Time Control
Reading support
Love + Motivation
Teacher’s Role
class habits
Learning methods
Goal-setting practices
Students ko admire karna
Jab dono align hote hain → student unstoppable ban jata hai.
Short Summary
| Chapter | Main Lesson | Key Tip |
|---|---|---|
| 8 | Habit ko attractive banao | Temptation bundling |
| 9 | Social influence habits banata hai | Smart group choose karo |
“Aap ki life ka 90% aapke habits decide karti hain…”
Chapter 8 ka concept — attractive habits
Treadmill + Netflix example
Study + Soft drink
Reading + Chocolate
Chapter 9 ka concept — group influence
Lazy vs smart students ka example
Classroom environment
School message:
“Tameer-e-Millat School me hum smart habits ka environment create kar rahe hain.”